When do we come most to life as our children’s favourite toys with bells and whistles flashing and most energised? If your children are being cooperative, listening, respectful, following rules, playing nicely etc. we might give then what we call ‘junk food’ praise. “<EM>Good job</EM>”, “<EM>Well done</EM>”, “<EM>Thank you</EM>”.</P><P dir="ltr" style="text-align: justify;">But when they misbehave, break the rules, are uncooperative, fighting or arguing that’s when we come MOST to life! That’s when all the bells and whistles give off the most connected and juiciest energy and connection. This is where we say to our children "Muck up and you get more of me, more relationship, more time and connection". Then the kids come to learn I get MORE relationship and connection when I do the wrong thing and so much less when I behave! Then we as parents wonder WHY our children keep seeking attention and relationship in negative ways! This is one of the most best parenting strategies to use as you will start to notice changes in your child's behaviour when you change when you give your child healthy praise
